BOUDOIR MYTHS MY CLIENTS HAVE TOLD ME.
OCEANSIDE, CALIFORNIA BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER | 2024
Every session - no matter the client - I am told some “myth” they believed prior to the shoot, that they then realized was false once experiencing their session.
These myths are usually all in our head or maybe part of the patriarchal narrative and belief that we “have to be this” or “look like that” or “be this age” etc., in order to do a boudoir session.
It’s all bullshit. And I say that nicely. But It’s true. None of these are real. Let me break it down for you.
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THE MYTH:
"I HAVE TO WEAR LINGERIE TO DO A BOUDOIR SHOOT.”
THE TRUTH:
YOU GET TO WEAR WHATEVER THE F*CK YOU WANT.
Boudoir is just an umbrella term for “Empowering Photoshoot”. How you feel about the word “empowering” is entirely up to you. Maybe you feel most empowered in a simple white tank and loose denim for a more editorial / lifestyle approach. Maybe you want to wear a cozy sweater and your favorite lace undies. Or, maybe you want to be photographed nude.
This is YOUR SHOOT. YOU decide what you wear and what you wear can 100000% dictate the way you feel during your session.
Luckily for you, I will be here pre-shoot to literally ask the questions that get you thinking about how you see yourself in these photos and how what we wear can lead to that. I then build you a style guide FULL of looks and inspiration based on that which will help you see clearly how you want to exist in this space.
It doesn’t have to be lingerie, my friend.
THE MYTH:
"I NEED TO HAVE A PARTNER TO JUSTIFY BOOKING THIS.”
THE TRUTH:
THAT’S JUST NOT TRUE.
I’ve had people book sessions post-divorce, post-breakup or simply just for themselves. Literally THE MOST empowering thing you can do for yourself, is a photoshoot like this where it is about no one but you.
When there is no one to gift this to, the pressure of needing to look a certain way or wear certain outfits melts away. It becomes solely about you and what you feel best about doing. That’s the most empowering thing isn’t it?
THE MYTH:
"I AM TOO OLD TO BOOK A SESSION.”
THE TRUTH:
YOU’RE NEVER TOO OLD TO START LIVING YOUR LIFE.
I’ve had clients in their SEVENTIES book sessions with me. We shot with their cane that they use as a mobility aid. And you’re gonna tell me you’re too old? I don’t buy it. Age is a number. Old is a concept. You only get this one life so why would you rob yourself of feeling empowered and joyful? Why would you rob yourself of the chance at seeing yourself and doing away with all the old lies you believe about yourself. Whether you’re in your 20s or 50s - 70s. There is space and room for you in my studio and you deserve this.
THE MYTH:
"I THOUGHT I’D HAVE TO COME UP WITH THE POSES MYSELF.”
THE TRUTH:
I LEAD YOU THE WHOLE WAY, ENTIRELY.
Yes that’s right. I walk alongside you in this experience start to finish, meaning, I am showing you every single pose. Once you’re in the pose, I (with consent) fix your hair and straps and jewelry - ensuring it’s all perfectly and intentionally place. While taking photos I am guiding you and directing you with what to do with your face and where to look with your eyes.
Head to toe, I have you covered and you are never left guessing “What now?”.
THE MYTH:
“I WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT BUT I DON’T KNOW IF IT’S CONSIDERED ‘BOUDOIR’”.
THE TRUTH:
IT’S BOUDOIR IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL EMPOWERED.
I specialize in “boudoir but different”. All that means is that I work with you to organize all your ideas and what makes you feel excited and make it a reality in the form of a photoshoot.
I have a background in fashion photography and I take all these unique ways of making images and put it into your session so that your photos feel truly unique, if that’s what you’re looking for.